Newborns are almost completely dependent on their parents or first caregivers. In optimal conditions, parents or guardians will protect and support the child’s growth and development process.
The presence of complete parents or caregivers makes children grow well, both behaviorally, emotionally and physiologically. But unfortunately, not all parents are able to carry out their duties and responsibilities properly.
Growing up as a child who experienced or witnessed violence was not easy. Moreover, children are less skilled at understanding and expressing what they experience and feel.
If left untreated, without proper treatment, the wound on the child will get stronger with age.
Violence and crimes against children
Harassment and physical abuse. When a parent or caregiver causes physical injury to the child.
Some examples of physical violence are kicking, hitting, choking, whipping, or other acts that injure a child.
Sexual violence. When someone who is older or has more power than children, engages the child in sexual acts or makes the child a sexual goal.
Examples of sexual violence include exposing a child’s intimate organs, having sexual contact with children, prostitution and child pornography.
Emotional abuse. When the behavior of a parent or caregiver harms a child’s mental and social development, it also has a major impact on the child’s emotional side.
For example, refusing, ignoring, humiliating, blaming, and holding back.
Ignorance. When parents or caregivers do not provide care, attention, assistance, love and support to meet children’s needs. The needs of children include health, safety and well-being.
Examples of child neglect are the unfulfilled children’s basic needs such as clothing and food, locking children in rooms, or leaving children in places that are dangerous for themselves.
Effects of Violence and Crime on Children
Child abuse and neglect not only leave physical and emotional scars, but also cause prolonged trauma and stress.
The existence of trauma also has an impact on a person’s ability to adapt to unusual changes that occur in his life.
The response to trauma experienced by children and adolescents can be different, including distrust of others and even close people and withdrawal from family and friends.
A child who experiences violence from those closest to him will see the world as uncomfortable and insecure. Children will also consider themselves worthless.
In addition, children choose to be aggressive to protect themselves. Children perceive violence as a way to solve problems. Even if he has problems, he can choose to hurt himself to overcome grief.
As children get older, children who witness or experience violent incidents firsthand experience the negative effects of these events.
The negative effects include difficulty in having a relationship, displaying risky behavior by drinking alcohol that is not in portions, or using illegal drugs, as well as violence against partners or being mistreated by a partner.
Another consequence of violent incidents is trauma that is present in life. Trauma to children is a risk factor for developing problems in human life.
Problems in the form of health problems with heart attacks, strokes, cancer or obesity as well as psychological problems, depression, and others.
This risk factor will be even stronger if a person does not realize or deny that there has been a past trauma that affects their living conditions.
One of the characteristics of trauma in human life is that it often protects oneself from stress, one of which is resistance.
The refusal in question was that he had not been able to admit to any unpleasant events in the past, so he or she was very hurt.
He or She tries to normalize the wounds of the past and feels that everyone has had the same injuries.
Trauma, a wound that is deep and has a big impact on various aspects of life. If they could choose, no child would grow up traumatized.
But unfortunately, the trauma felt real and it was not easy to escape from it.
For anyone struggling with trauma, remember. You are not alone. The presence of loved ones and sincere wishes for your kindness are also present in the process of your journey.
Don’t hesitate to ask for help. Because actually asking for help is a form of self-love so that you can come back strong and recover from the difficulties that occur.